Papa is Home

On January 20, 2014 I published a post entitled Home:  They say that Home is where the Heart is.  I cannot imagine the feeling of having your life was turned upside down all at once.  In the beginning of this year (2014), Papa not only lost his wife of almost 59 years, he left his comfort zone: his home, his friends, many of his belongings and much of his independence.  He faithfully trusted us knowing this was the right decision and left the warm climate of Arizona, to move across country to a much cooler locale.  I mentioned that each day I see gentle reminders in his behavior that shows he is more comfortable and we are hoping that with consistency he will truly feel at home.  And then there are times as we are sitting in the family room and watching TV that I see him gently caress Nana’s side table and I realize that his first home will always be where his heart is, with Nana.

Wayne and Geraldine
February 12, 1955

 

On March 2. 2017, Papa truly went home.  As he closed his eyes to rest after his mid-day meal he drifted off to eternity to be with the love of his life.  He left this world in the most tranquil of ways.  It was peaceful, just like Papa was peaceful and loving and kind and I cannot imagine a better way for him to end his days on earth as he moves into the eternal world.

 

 

My chronicles of Papa are not done.  I have hundreds of loose sheets of paper for the times I just grabbed whatever I could write on as he was talking.  I have emails I sent to myself or notes on my phone and computer when paper was not available.  And I even have some video of him telling me things when he was talking too fast for me to accurately put his words onto paper.  I look forward to having Nana’s side table in my office and when I am at a loss for words, as I am tonight, I can gently caress that table just as Papa did hoping that it will bring me closer to him.  I love you, Papa.

Please share your Papa stories with me.  I would love to make sure they are included in our collection.

 

8 thoughts on “Papa is Home”

  1. How fortunate my brother Daryl and I have been to be supported in everything we have ever done. When we were young, before the days of soccer moms, my dad was often the primary one to pick us up from practice. He made sure we had things that he didn’t when he was young. After a hard days work as a mechanic, he was there to cheer on his boys in some sport because being a father was most important to him. His lessons almost always ended with” do the best you can at anything you choose to do. Even if you are a garbage man, be the best garbage man you can be”. It took me years to understand that he was just trying to convey that no matter what we decided to do, he would be proud of us. As a father myself, I understand. Thanks for the life lesson dad.

  2. So sorry to hear of the loss of such a wonderful person. Even though I never met him, the outcome of his life as a man was apparent. God bless you and the entire Morocco family. I know he will be missed by so many.

    I look forward to hearing more of his life.

    God bless you all,
    Darlene

  3. So sorry for your loss Doug and Sandy. I met Jerry years ago at Fran’s house I first met Wayne at a party at Rob’s mansion house in Lake Villa. It was probably Wayne’s 50th birthday. I have enjoyed all the pictures of your Dad. Wayne was blessed to have such a nice son and daughter(really daughter-in-law) but I’m sure he loved Sandy as a daughter.

  4. Sandy and Doug:
    What a beautifully written tribute to Wayne. Created with love and understanding. It certainly says what kind of man Wayne was. And what a wonderful father and husband he was. His life lessons are something all of us can learn and live by.
    I am so very sorry for your loss and even though he is gone, he will live in your hearts forever.
    All my sympathy.
    Love,
    Peggy

  5. I’m so sorry for your loss, but thankful that he is HOME. You and Doug have been great caregivers. It is not for the faint of heart and it is certainly a gift, to be able to change and adapt as the disease progresses. Praying for the whole family during this time. You did well in helping him finish the race.

  6. Sandy,
    First of all, my sincere condolences to you and Doug. Wayne was a wonderful person, who thought the world of his family. I was able to see that first hand when touring with him in Richmond, with Allison and Christina. We walked over five miles, and while he was pretty tired, he was with his granddaughters, and that was all that mattered. He would have gone another five for them.

    He also would be the first to reach out to others. Even longer ago, when I was going to help move Steve out east after he graduated college, we had a U-haul filled, and my car behind it to be towed. Then I could drive it back home after leaving Steve and his stuff there. Wayne was at Mom’s house with other family to say goodbye, and good luck, to Steve. He looked at the U-haul and my car, and said that it would not be good for that front wheel drive to be towed with the wheels on the ground and the drive shaft connected. He grabbed some tools and started to disconnect it.

    He called me to get under with him to watch, so that I would be able to reconnect it when I got to New Jersey. It was swarming with mosquitos that evening, and we were getting eaten up alive. Wayne didn’t flinch, he got through the mechanics of the car, and made sure I understood how to put it back together. Wayne would not only look out for others, but he made it seem easy. He didn’t let sore feet or a thousand mosquito bites bother him. Wayne trudged through life with a smile on his face.

    While both of those events happened a long time ago, Wayne’s legacy is that you and Doug have not only been taught important live lessons from him, but that you have put those lessons into practice. Wayne did not teach you advanced algebra that would never be used again, but how to treat people-family-and then how to take care of them. While you have been practicing those ideals for a long time, we were able to only see it when you began broadcasting ‘Raising Papa’. Then we were able to not only witness the progression of such a debilitating disease that Wayne had, but how you and Doug were navigating him (and you) through it. You have shown us the ups and downs, the glory and the heartache, involved with caretaking an elder family member.

    In short, you have shown us, what Wayne has shown you. He could not be any prouder.

  7. Doug, Sandy & family,
    You have my deepest condolences on the passing of Doug’s dad. It is heartwarming to see the care and devotion you gave him and I have been personally moved by your Raising Papa stories. I know that God will give you the strength and peace you need to carry on.

    With sympathy,
    Beth

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